1. THE LINE IS DEAD
●When a person is
excited about you, they want to communicate with you as often as
possible. They will call, tweet, text, facebook; whatever it takes, just
to hear from you and to commune with you.
● When the line from the
other end seems dead, something is wrong. Scrutinize your communication.
Are you the constant initiator? Do they ever bother? Is your excitement
one sided? Value yourself.
You also deserve to be longingly anticipated.
2. THE MISSING FOLLOW UP
●When a person asks you out and goes out with you, they will usually
communicate and let you know what a good time they had. If they don't
follow up the date with any communication, maybe they didn't enjoy it as
much as you did.
●If you are still waiting after a week, two weeks,
a month, several months and they don't say anything, they are probably
not going to communicate. If you are the only one being superfluous with
gratitude about the date, the excitement is lopsided. It seems the
pleasure was all yours!
●Ladies, a man who is excited about you will not stay silent for days, weeks and months on end after a date.
He may be a gentleman and may be playing polite but the truth is, he's just not that interested.
●Don't keep checking why he hasn't called you back. Don't nag somebody
for feedback. Move on. You will find someone who loves you the way you
desire to be loved. Remember, you were not created to be tolerated. Let
dignity guard you! Dignity is the awareness that you also deserve honor!
3. THE BOTTOM OF THE LIST
●One undeniable result of passion is pursuit. When you are passionate
about something, you create time for it and you prioritize it.
●When
a person no longer prioritizes your dates, postpones them for flimsy
reasons or seems relieved when something else comes up, they are telling
you something.
●When your requests to meet are met with excuses,
excuses, excuses like; "I had to work late, I need to do something, my
mum sent me to shaggs, I had homework", they are avoiding you.
● A
person in love with you cannot get enough of being with you. When you
are relegated to the bottom of the priority list the relationship is
dying. When you are being endured, it is a bad sign. Don't insist, read
the signs.
●Maya Angelous said
"when people show you who they really are, believe them".
●Many people who have wasted time waiting for someone, simply ignored the obvious signs that were presented before them.
●If he/she constantly comes late for dates, because they'd rather be
doing something else more interesting, it's a burning bush signal to
you.
●If they begin to postpone dates, the burning bush is now talking.
If they don't show up for dates and never say a word, the bush is now
shouting while running round in circles. Someone is definitely missing
the screaming signs.
4. THE THIRD PARTY
●Relationships are for
two, but as I read on a flier recently, some people don't know how to
count. When there's a third person competing for your loved one, and
he/she is allowing it, it's time for a relationship review.
●When
your boy/girl friend seems so taken and in awe of another person, it is a
red flag. When they would rather do anything for that person but you
seem to have to beg, write a petition and a thesis justifying what you
are asking for, you are no longer their number one.
●You have
become a contingency plan and an option.. You were "now showing" but you
have been overtaken. Watch out, "coming soon" is round the corner.
●Also, when your loved one is completely unmoved if someone else is
interested in you, they are over you. Even God is jealous for His own.
When someone doesn't seem to care whether or not a third party has their
sights on you, they have removed themselves from that equation.
●
It doesn't matter any more to them, whether you go or stay. When he/she
would rather be with their buddies rather than you, the relationship is
dead.
5. THE CLANDESTINE POSITION
●When a person is sure that
they want to spend the rest of their life with you, they introduce you
to their close friends and family. They will want you to meet the people
that matter to them. Beware of the person who hides you.
Beware of the person who wants to walk with you at night.Who will not be seen with you in public.
Whose family has never heard of you and who keeps downplaying the "meet and greet".
●It is a strong indication that you are not that important to them.
●If you were dating and then suddenly you are the only one introducing them as your boy/girlfriend, something is wrong.
If they introduce you as their neighbor, friend or prayer partner and
seem not to call you girl/boyfriend anymore, they are over you.
●Just to clarify something here; Never assume that you are dating someone.
It doesn't matter how many dates you have gone for, you have to agree when you are "officially" boyfriend and girl/friend.
If this has happened but the person now struggles to introduce you as
such; they are either embarrassed about you or not convinced in their
heart about you.
6. THE SLOW IT DOWN PLEA
●Passion can be
impatient. When a person is excited about something, they want it now!
It doesn't ever seem to happen fast enough. That is why, when the person
you are dating begins to talk in terms of slowing things down, they are
sending a message. They are easing you off. They want to gently back
off from you.
● I'm not talking about a genuine request to figure
out whether or not they are ready. I'm talking about someone who just
wants more "SPACE" away from you. Don't ask and make it more awkward by
asking " Can I call you after space period is over"? Get the message.
●Honorable people are straight forward and honest in a polite and
loving way. Unfortunately, not everyone is honorable in relationships.
It's a sad thing when you find yourself with someone who doesn't have
the backbone to tell you that they don't think the relationship is going
anywhere. Someone who strings you along and keeps you frustrated and
wondering.
●What is worse, is allowing yourself to be stringed along.
●What is sad is ignoring the signs and insisting that all is well. Do yourself a favor, dis-mount! That horse is long gone.
●Don't get bitter and vindictive. Clarify their position, release them
and trust God NEVER to end up in such a situation again. I often say
"fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me".
●By God's
grace and wisdom, you will find the right and the best person for
you.Don't delay the entrance of that person into your life by holding on
to the wrong time wasting relationships.
●If you are the person who
knows that you are no longer interested, stop stringing someone along.
Man up. Be honest and gracious and let them know. Don't waste anybody's
time. It is not merciful. It is actually very cruel. I decree that you
have wisdom.You will marry well in Jesus name.amen
